Grief & Trauma Work & Systems of Oppression

Today I’m grateful for the little bits of birdsong that are beginning in my region. Yesterday it snowed here (which is a bit rare on the West Coast) but there are so many other signs of spring all around us.  Dear ones, most of you are gathered here in this community as a kind of …

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grieving during the holidays

Grieving Through the Holidays 

It takes a lot of courage to turn towards our grief. Often it can feel easier to turn away or “numb out.” Even just holding curiousity about how you might be able to tend to your experience differently is a powerful step – and by being here, you are doing it.  As my teacher Francis Weller says, “We …

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power of your prayer

On the Power of Your Prayers

Today I’m feeling grateful for the last of the leaves turning & falling here in the Pacific Northwest and their colours even as they fade. I’m also grateful for walks by the the ocean and rooting ever deeper into my own ancestral lineages & traditions of grief tending.  It’s also been heartbreaking to witness what is happening in the …

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grand initiation navigating menopause

The Grand Initiation: Navigating Menopause with Wisdom & Grace

Today, I have a very specific grief topic to share with you – this is for women who are in the perimenopause or menopause time of life – if that’s you, amazing. If not, please consider who you might know and love that could benefit from this offering & forward them this post! 🍂 Between …

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Global Day of Grieving for Israel/Palestine

First: Trigger warning. In this post I am talking about what Francis Weller calls the third gate of grief – the sorrows of the world.  Specifically Israel/Palestine. If this topic is too much for you at the time, please skip this or come back to it at a time when you have more space. 💔 Here’s …

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an ancient grief practice

An Ancient Grief Tending Practice

I’ve fallen behind on a few things within the big energy of Summer Solstice  time, getting kids through their final weeks of school for the season,  and, (you know!) all. the. things.  I try to make it a priority to offer my clients, groups, family, friends & larger community a regulated nervous system over anything else, because I know my own regulation & well-being sends …

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anger through grief

Anger in Grief – 3 Tricks for Working with this Taboo Emotion!

When anger arises as a part of our grieving process, it can be one of the most difficult emotions to allow ourselves to feel. We can feel shame around it and may tell ourselves, “I shouldn’t feel angry, I should feel SAD.” I want to break down this taboo, because, like all feelings, anger serves …

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The Shame of Our Tears

💧💧💧Today I want to talk to you about tears. 💧💧💧 A few days ago, I was speaking with Elizabeth Claire Burr, my long time friend and mentor and one of our amazing support team in our Through the Dark Woods – Real Life Skills for Navigating Grief & Trauma online Membership Group. We were talking …

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What would it be like if you NEVER played down your JOY?

What would it be like if you could feel joy in your body and it felt totally safe? Last night in my grief group, we worked with the energy of Lunar Imbolc and planted seeds for what we want to create in the upcoming year. Inspired by Danielle Laporte’s Desire Maps/Goals with Soul Process, we …

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A mid-winter Blessing

In recognition of how challenging this time of year can be in the Northern hemisphere. If you are feeling more tired, more sleepy, slow-moving or struggling in whatever way, this is especially for you. We are living amidst and over-culture that suggests that on January 1st you should be ready to leap forward & start …

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